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AL.com is continuing its series of highlighting some of the most unbreakable records in AHSAA history, this week with some historic numbers in boys basketball.

Fans will also have the opportunity to take their pick for most unbreakable record.

In last week’s girls basketball poll, fans chose former Woodland star Courtney Strain’s record for most points in a single season with 1,261 as the most unbreakable in AHSAA girls basketball history.

Voting for this week will close on Friday. Cast yours at the poll below.

Here are some of our picks for the most unbreakable records in AHSAA boys basketball history:

Career blocks

1,322: William Lee, Dallas County, 2011-14

According to the National Federation of State High School record book, Lee’s career blocks mark is a national record and one of only two players with over 1,000 career blocks; California native and former University of Arkansas star Darnell Robinson finished with 1,187.

He also finished the 2012-13 season with a state-record 505 blocks and also holds the NFHS record for most blocks in a game with 26 in the 2011-12 season. After claiming Mr. Basketball honors in 2014, he went on to have a standout collegiate career at UAB, where he was a two-time Conference USA Defensive Player of the Year.

Points scored in a game

97: Walter Garrett, West End (97), 1962-63 vs. Glenn (54), 1962-63 (39 FG, 19 FT)

This record, which has stood for over 50 years, remains untouched since the historic game in which Garrett scored every point for West End. He would go on to play at Birmingham-Southern College and was one of the inaugural inductees in the Alabama Sports Officials Hall of Fame.

J.F. Shields’ John Drew has the second- and third-most points in a game, with 77 and 74, both achieved against the Snow Hill Institute during the 1971-72 season. There are five 70-point games in the AHSAA record book, with Red Level’s Javen Poindexter scoring 73 against Pleasant Home in 2024.

Career field goals attempted

1,127: Jeremy Monceaux, Parkway Christian, 1999-00

Now the head boys basketball coach at Hewitt-Trussville, this mark for Monceaux is 278 more than the second-place entry in the AHSAA record book. Former Lindsay Lane star Tommy Murr finished the 2017-18 season with 849 field goals as the second-place entry. Kameron Woods of Pinson Valley finished with 817 in the 2019-20 season.

Monceaux also ranks second in AHSAA history for career points (4,555), career scoring average (36.7 points per game) and career 3-pointers attempted (1,217). He would go on to play at Liberty from 2002-06 and was a part of the team that played in the 2004 NCAA tournament. He has also been the head coach at Clay-Chalkville and Springville.

Free throws attempted in a game

112: DAR (77) vs. Good Hope (62), 2000-01

This matchup from the Class 3A Northeast Regional title game saw DAR advance to the state semifinals with a 68-44 win over New Hope. The Patriots would eventually fall to eventual Class 3A state champion Calhoun at the Birmingham-Jefferson Civic Center.

It is the only game in AHSAA history with at least 110 combined free throws; A 102-97 victory for East Lawrence over Hamilton in the 1997-98 season had 101 combined free throws.

3-pointers attempted in a season

514: Cale Black, Crossville, 1989-90

Black’s record still makes him the only player in the AHSAA record book to attempt 500 3-point baskets in a season; former Lindsay Lane star Tommy Murr ranks second with 410 attempted in the 2019-2020 season.

His mark also ranks second in the nation according to the National Federation of State High School record book. Black’s 166 made 3-pointers that season also ranks second in single-season history; he attempted 24 shots from beyond the arc against Collinsville, which is tied for fifth in a single game.

Career free throws made

1,127: Tommy Murr, Lindsay Lane, 2014-20

One of the state’s most recent stars that scatter the record books, nobody has come close to Murr’s monster mark of career free throws made. He attempted 1,313 career free throws, good for a career 85.8% free-throw percentage across his career. Murr also holds records for most points in a season (1,506), most career points (5,716), career field goals made (1,638) and career 3-pointers attempted (1,250), among others.

Signed with Lipscomb out of high school, he played in 70 games across three seasons in Nashville before transferring to UAH. He played in 65 games with the Chargers and was named Gulf South Conference Player of the Year and the 2025 Alabama Sports Writers Association Small College Athlete of the Year during his final collegiate season after averaging 20.8 points, 5.7 assists and 4.3 rebounds in the 2024-25 season.

Career assists

1,361: Bart Hyche, Winfield, 1990-94

The former Winfield star’s record still stands, completing the mark in 102 games with the Pirates from 1990-94. He is one of four players in the record books with 1,000 assists, joining Eric Nix of Ider (1,098), Jamie Pruett of North Sand Mountain (1,076) and Jeremy Monceaux of Parkway Christian (1,035). Hyche is also one of four players in the records with a 20-assist game and had 326 in the 1992-92 season, which ranks fifth for single-season assists.

A two-time Class 3A Player of the Year and Alabama Sports Writers Association Super 5 member, he helped lead Winfield to a pair of AHSAA state finals appearances and a 96-6 record during his final three seasons; he went on to play at Mississippi State. Hyche now assists in coverage of the AHSAA State Finals.

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Alabamians are connected to well-known films in many ways but did you know famous films such as “Grease” and “Everything Everywhere All at Once,” were written by people from our state?

In some cases, authors of books on which movies are based also wrote the film’s screenplay. Still other films were entirely original screenplays written by Alabamians.

Here’s a look at some of the most popular films for which Alabamians had writing credits (in chronological order). Which ones would you add? Email [email protected].

The Bad Seed, 1956

Mobile native William March wrote the novel on which the film “The Bad Seed” is based.

The Innocents, 1961

Truman Capote was born in New Orleans but spent much of his childhood living in Monroeville, Ala. Few people realize the bestselling author of “In Cold Blood” and “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” co-wrote the screenplay for a cult-classic horror film. “The Innocents,” a 1961 black-and-white based on the Henry James novella, “The Turn of the Screw.”

To Kill a Mockingbird, 1962

Monroeville native Harper Lee wrote the source novel for “To Kill a Mockingbird,” one of the best-selling books of all time.

Paper Moon, 1973

Birmingham native Joe David Brown wrote “Addie Pray” the novel on which the film “Paper Moon” is based.

Black Christmas, 1974

Written by Bob Clark, who was born in New Orleans and raised in Birmingham, “Black Christmas” is considered by film historians to be the start of the slasher era that brought us “Friday the 13th” and “Halloween.”

Logan’s Run, 1976

“Logan’s Run” was written by George Clayton Johnson, who was born in Wyoming but attended Auburn University in Alabama.

Grease, 1978

Alabama native Bronte Woodard wrote the screenplay for “Grease,” which was based on a Broadway show.

Porky’s, 1981

Written by Bob Clark, who was born in New Orleans and grew up in Birmingham. Clark also directed. “Porky’s” was controversial due to its raunchy humor.

A Christmas Story, 1983

Written by Bob Clark and humorist Jean Shepherd, who wrote the source material. Clark, who also directed “A Christmas Story,” was born in New Orleans and grew up in Birmingham.

Twilight Zone: The Movie, 1983

One segment of the anthology film “Twilight Zone: The Movie” was co-written by George Clayton Johnson, who was born in Wyoming but attended Auburn University in Alabama. The second segment was based on Johnson’s original teleplay from the “Twilight Zone” TV series for the episode “Kick the Can.”

Full Metal Jacket, 1987

Russellville native Gustav Hasford, who wrote the source novel for “Full Metal Jacket,” shared screenwriting credit with director Stanley Kubrick.

Beetlejuice, 1988

Enterprise native Michael McDowell co-wrote the story and screenplay for “Beetlejuice.”

Tales from the Darkside: The Movie, 1990

For the anthology film “Tales from the Darkside,” Enterprise native Michael McDowell shared screenplay and story credits with Stephen King, Arthur Conan Doyle and George A. Romero.

Fried Green Tomatoes, 1991

Birmingham native Fannie Flagg co-wrote the screenplay for “Fried Green Tomatoes,” adapted from her novel, “Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe.”

The Nightmare Before Christmas, 1993

Enterprise native Michael McDowell shared screenwriting credit for the animated film “Nightmare Before Christmas” with Tim Burton and Caroline Thompson.

This Boy’s Life, 1993

Birmingham native Tobias Wolff wrote the novel “This Boy’s Life” on which the film is based.

Forrest Gump, 1994

This film “Forrest Gump” was based on the novel by Mobile native Winston Groom.

Thinner, 1996

Enterprise native Michael McDowell wrote the screenplay for “Thinner,” based on the Stephen King book of the same name.

Mulan, 1998

Boaz native Tim Hodge was one of a team of story writers for the animated Disney film “Mulan.”

October Sky, 1999

Huntsville resident Homer Hickham wrote the source novel for the movie “October Sky.” The book was called “Rocket Boys.”

Crazy in Alabama, 1999

Monroeville native Mark Childress wrote the screenplay for “Crazy in Alabama” and source novel of the same name.

Austin Powers: The Spy Who Shagged Me, 1999

The screenplay for the second “Austin Powers” movie was written by Vestavia Hills native Michael McCullers.

The Italian Job, 2003

Birmingham native Donna Powers co-wrote the screenplay, along with her husband, for “The Italian Job,” starring Mark Wahlberg and Charlize Theron.

Big Fish, 2003

Birmingham native Daniel Wallace wrote the source novel for “Big Fish,” directed by Tim Burton and filmed in Alabama.

Everything Everywhere All at Once, 2022

Birmingham native Daniel Scheinert wrote the screenplay for the hit film “Everything Everywhere All at Once” along with Daniel Kwan. The duo won Oscars for directing the film.

Godzilla vs. Kong: The New Empire, 2024

The 2024 film “Godzilla vs. Kong: The New Empire” was co-written by Adam Wingard, along with Simon Barrett, Terry Rossio and Jeremy Slater. Wingard was born in Oak Ridge, Tenn., in 1982 and grew up near Marion, Ala., before moving to Birmingham.

The Fountainhead, a “masterpiece of organic architecture designed by the legendary Frank Lloyd Wright,” is currently on the market for $2.5 million, according to listing agent Douglas Adams. The home is located in the Fondren neighborhood, a “vibrant mid-century community” in Jackson, Miss., Adams said.

Click through the gallery at the top of this story to see photos of the property.

Construction on the home, listed on the National Register of Historic Places, began in 1951 and was completed in 1954 when Wright was in his 80s. He died in 1959 at age 91.

Wright-designed homes occasionally come on the market, often the smaller houses he called “Usonian,” which were built to be affordable for middle-income families. He built 60 Usonian homes. One, the Rosenbaum House, is located in Florence, Ala., and is open as a museum.

Wright was known for designing original furniture to specifically fit his homes, which is typically sold with the home.

Listing details

Address: 306 Glenway Drive, Jackson, MS

Price: $2.5 million

Built: 1951

Size: 3,558 square feet, 3 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms

Lot Size: 0.97 acres

Agents: Douglas Adams and David A Smith, Crescent Sotheby’s Intl Realty in New Orleans, 504-944-3605

Adams said the Fountainhead “seamlessly integrates Wright’s iconic principles of natural harmony and innovative design” and was “designed specifically for the contours of its site, and this site generated the building’s form.”

The 3,558-square-foot home has three bedrooms, two full baths and two half baths.

“Fountainhead was built with no stud walls in the house, no sheetrock, brick, tile or paint and boasts of exquisite-exceptionally durable Heart Tidewater Red Cypress wood for the walls and ceilings,” the listing says. “The roof has the original copper sheeting.”

The home will appeal to admirers of Wright or those seeking a home that “embodies timeless beauty,” Adams said.

“Set amid lush landscaping, this property is a tranquil retreat while remaining moments from Fondren’s eclectic shops, restaurants, and cultural attractions,” the listing said.

Dear Eric: A relatively new friend has invited me to a third dinner at her home, and I do not want to attend. Her first two meals were simply not well-prepared and not good.

One meal included fish that had an unappetizing odor as she fried it and also had an unpleasant “off” taste when I tried to eat it. She also served barely warm, bland mashed potatoes and overcooked, unseasoned vegetables. No butter or sauces for anything. When I helped her clean up after the meal, I placed the leftover fish into the refrigerator. I could tell the interior was not very cold. Perhaps the fish had been sitting in the refrigerator uncooked for too long a time and was beginning to spoil.

The second meal at her home consisted of hummus that had been sitting out uncovered so long it had started to develop a crust. Also, there were crackers and plain, overcooked broccoli to eat with the hummus. I ate only a small amount at each meal, telling her I was not very hungry.

Since I have decided not to eat another meal that she has cooked, I do not know how to tell her I am not interested in a third invitation to dinner.

She has asked me to pick a date when I can come. Other than her cooking, she makes a good friend. How can I bow out gracefully from attending her home for meals?

– Lost My Appetite

Dear Appetite: You’ve painted quite a vivid picture. After reading this letter, I’m not hungry either. I can see why you don’t want to go back.

Criticizing another person’s cooking can be a tricky thing. If you think there’s something technically awry, like the temperature of her refrigerator, you can alert her – and potentially help her avoid illness. But it sounds like the bigger issue is one of … well, taste.

I do hate being avoidant, but in this case the most palatable path may be to ask for another activity other than dinner. Perhaps, it’s a movie or an outing instead. You could even reverse the invitation and have her over. If you emphasize that you’re very interested in spending time together, but you’d rather eat at home, you honor her intention without having to make an unsavory compromise.

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EDITOR’S NOTE: Every day until Aug. 29, Creg Stephenson is counting down significant numbers in Alabama football history, both in the lead-up to the 2025 football season and in commemoration of the Crimson Tide’s first national championship 100 years ago. The number could be attached to a year, a uniform number or even a football-specific statistic. We hope you enjoy.

The most-decisive Alabama bowl victory wasn’t coached by Nick Saban, Paul “Bear” Bryant or even Wallace Wade, but by Harold “Red” Drew.

The Crimson Tide set numerous school postseason records — some that still stand — in a 61-6 rout of Syracuse in the 1953 Orange Bowl. Alabama capped a 10-2 season by pummeling the hapless Orangemen before a crowd of 66,208 on New Year’s Day in Miami.

“A ‘souped-up’ University of Alabama riptide all but chased the boys from Syracuse back across the Mason-Dixon Line yesterday as they amassed the most lop-sided victory in the history of major bowl competition,” Zipp Newman wrote in the following day’s Birmingham News, using a Civil War metaphor, as was the sports-writing custom at the time. “The score: 61-6 speaks for itself.

“The boys from Tuscaloosa went into the game with the heady scent of orange blossoms but emerged four quarters later with the sweet fruits of victory after pouring on an astonishing performance of offensive football.”

Alabama had been a good, but not great team during the 1952 regular season. In addition to its nine victories, the Crimson Tide lost 20-0 at Tennessee in mid-October and 7-3 in mid-November to a Georgia Tech team that finished undefeated and ranked No. 2 in the polls behind national champion Michigan State.

But Alabama got hot down the stretch, routing a good Maryland team 27-7 in Mobile on Nov. 22 and shutting out a not-so-good Auburn team in the Iron Bowl on Nov. 29. That set up the Orange Bowl matchup with Syracuse, which was 7-2 with losses to Michigan State (48-7) and a team of former college and professional players from Bolling Field Air Force Base (13-12).

Ben Schwartzwelder’s Orangemen — making their first-ever bowl appearance — were a year away from signing future superstar Jim Brown and a half-decade from becoming a national power that would win the 1959 national championship. An Associated Press report prior to the 1953 Orange Bowl set Alabama as a two-touchdown favorite, with Schwartzwelder calling the Crimson Tide “the most powerful team I ever saw.”

The same report indicated that Syracuse “hopes to spring an upset with Pat Stark, a good-passing quarterback, and Bill Wetzel, 205-pound fullback who’s just back from driving a truck in Korea.” It was not to be, to say the least.

“I’m proud of my boys,” Drew said after the game. “They were fired up. I thought we would win. But I had no idea it would be by such a margin.

“I’m serious when I say this group of kids are the finest and greatest fighters I’ve ever coached.”

Alabama’s 61 points and 56-point margin of victory remain school bowl records. The Crimson Tide’s 586 yards of total offense has been exceeded only once, by the 621 yards against Ohio State in the 2021 College Football Playoff National Championship Game.

Among those 586 yards of offense were 300 passing, a rarity in those days. Newman, who had covered Alabama football since 1919, wrote that he couldn’t remember the last time the Crimson Tide had gained so many yards through the air in one game.

(The day ultimately proved to be a sad one in the state of Alabama, as news spread that country music superstar Hank Williams — a Butler County native who grew up in Montgomery — had died from heart failure while traveling by car to a show in Ohio. Williams, who had battled alcoholism and other health issues for years, was just 29.)

Alabama led only 7-6 after one quarter and 21-6 at halftime, but poured on 40 points in the second half. The game got so out-of-hand that All-America halfback Bobby Marlow — who had run for 950 yards during the regular season — carried the ball just 10 times for 32 yards in the Orange Bowl, scoring on a 1-yard run in the second quarter.

Starting quarterback Clell Hobson passed for 207 yards and two touchdowns, while freshman backup Bart Starr added 93 and another score. Fullback Tommy Lewis ran for 77 yards two TDs, while halfback Bobby Luna had a 38-yard touchdown run and a 27-yard scoring reception and Corky Tharp caught a 50-yard TD.

Alabama’s defense also rose to the occasion, holding Syracuse to 75 yards rushing and intercepting five passes. Hootie Ingram (the Crimson Tide’s future athletics director) had one of those interceptions and also returned a punt 80 yards for a touchdown, while Marvin Hill ran back an interception 60 yards for another score.

At one point late in the game, Alabama assistant coach Lew Bostick walked up to the bench and asked, “Is there anyone who hasn’t played?” No one answered in the affirmative.

“I couldn’t stop them,” Drew said. “This bunch just loves to play football.”

Wrote Newman, “It was about as near perfect for Alabama in a bowl game as it could possibly have been.”

Coming Wednesday: Our countdown continues with No. 52, one of Alabama’s early dual-threat quarterback superstars.

Dear Eric: I have been with my boyfriend for 14 years. We live about 15 minutes’ drive apart.

He is widowed and I’m divorced. We both have one adult son. Mine is 31 and his is 40.

I haven’t met his son or any friends/family members, though he knows mine.

My boyfriend says he had an abusive dad, and he doesn’t much like his two siblings or their families. He only has one real friend but won’t introduce us.

I asked him why once and he said he “likes his privacy.” I put it down to his idiosyncrasies but still find it odd.

We have always talked for hours on a nightly basis. Previously, he has gone quiet for a week or two at times. But now, although we haven’t had a falling out, I haven’t seen him in eight months.

I miss him and told him that, but nothing changed, we kept talking. Now I feel like I am wasting my time on someone I love, who clearly doesn’t feel the same way. I am not good at letting go, so please, what is your suggestion here? I don’t want a phone-only connection.

– Short-Distance Love

Dear Love: Something’s gotta give. If he’s happy to talk for hours every night, then he can and should spend 15 minutes of one of those hours, making the trek to your house for an in-person talk. Ask for that. If he can’t or won’t do it, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you, but it may mean that he’s not in a position to be who you need right now.

That said, multiple things can be true here. Your boyfriend has communicated – perhaps not entirely effectively – his boundaries and the traumas from which they stem. Sometimes when boundaries are communicated, they can sound like rejections even if they’re not.

It’s concerning that, after 14 years, you haven’t met his son or his sole friend. There are some indicators that he’s dealing with heavy stuff – the past abuse, going quiet for a time. He may be happiest letting the relationship he has with you flourish away from other, more complicated relationships. But he’s not doing a great job integrating his coping mechanisms into his love life. That can be hard, but it’s not insurmountable. A loving relationship needs care, empathy, compromise and understanding in order to survive. So, if you’re not getting that, or not getting it in the way you want, it may be healthiest for you to choose separation.

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LeAnn Rimes recently opened up about her affair with now-husband Eddie Cibrian.

Rimes, 42, and Cibrian, 52, were married in 2011 after meeting three years earlier on the set of the Lifetime movie “Northern Lights.”

The “Can’t Fight the Moonlight” singer told “Flow Space” she was the target of hate as a result.

“I realized very quickly that there are a lot of women who’ve been hurt,” Rimes said. “Like, I’ve been on both sides of that coin — I’ve been cheated on, too, so I know that feeling. But so many women don’t know what to do with that anger… I was a target that was just easily projected upon. And once I realized that, things got a lot easier.”

Cibrian was married to Brandi Glanville, while Rimes was married to Dean Sheremet at the time of the affair.

She went on to say she didn’t take the backlash “personally,” and instead reminded herself that “this is not all my pain to carry.”

“I know what I’m responsible for in the situation and making amends for that,” she said. “But you know, the world’s pain is not mine to carry, and I think that really got thrown at me for a long time.”

In 2010, Rimes told PEOPLE she considered her affair with Cibrian “one of the most selfish things that I could possibly do, in hurting someone else.”

“I take responsibility for everything I’ve done. I hate that people got hurt, but I don’t regret the outcome,” she said.

Mark Heim is a reporter for The Alabama Media Group. Follow him on Twitter @Mark_Heim. He can be heard on “The Opening Kickoff” on WNSP-FM 105.5 FM in Mobile or on the free Sound of Mobile App from 6 to 9 a.m. daily.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a gentleman who strives to live a mannerly life. In that regard, when riding public transportation, I offer my seat to ladies who are standing. I also wait for ladies to leave an elevator before me.

Now that I am well beyond retirement age, does that change any expectations and norms? When, if ever, do I keep my seat and allow younger men the privilege of offering their seat to the fairer sex?

GENTLE READER: First, please get off those elevators when you are in front, instead of creating confusion by trying to stand back in favor of any ladies who are behind you. “Ladies first” never applied there.

For your habit of yielding seats, Miss Manners commends you, and hopes that ladies always treat the gesture graciously, whether or not they accept.

But it is not only your age that has changed; our system of precedence is in flux. Gender is becoming less of a factor, as it can do damage in the workplace, where deferring to colleagues as ladies undermines their professional identities. There, precedence should be determined by the job’s hierarchy.

And in society at large, age is becoming more of a factor. Should a young lady offer you a seat, Miss Manners hopes you will also respond graciously.

This is not to say that the gentlemanliness you practice should be abandoned — much less condemned, as is done by some. Tradition has its place, and these gestures add grace to society.

So the short answer is: Keep offering seats to ladies if you don’t mind standing; if you do mind, then stay seated.

Please send your questions to Miss Manners at missmanners.com, by email to [email protected], or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.

Ivey makes a change

Gov. Kay Ivey has made a change at the Alabama parole board, reports AL.com’s Ivana Hrynkiw.

With parole-board chair Leigh Gwathney supplying a nearly automatic “no” vote, the board’s 2023 parole rate tumbled well below the board’s own guidelines. It’s rebounded somewhat, although Gwathney has remained a reliable “no” in most cases.

That’s ignited the debate over just how tight the parole board ought to be. The board’s stated guidelines called for a parole rate around 80%, and some officials and former Alabama chief justices from both parties have called for parole to be more attainable for those who qualify. State Attorney General Steve Marshall was among those wanting to keep many of those inmates behind bars. Marshall just last week called on the governor to reappoint Gwathney to the chair of the parole board.

Instead, Ivey replaced Gwathney with Hal Nash, the chief corrections deputy for the Jackson County Sheriff’s Office. Ivey called Nash a “tough-on-crime, fair and pro-law-enforcement candidate with leadership experience.”

He takes over the chair position immediately.

New school in Madison County

A new, big middle school is going up next to Hazel Green High School, reports AL.com’s Megan Plotka.

It’ll enroll 1,200 seventh- and eighth-graders in northern Madison County and cost $53 million to build. Builders will break ground this month, and the school is expected to open for the 2027-28 school year.

Other coming changes to that school district include a new 12-classroom wing for Hazel Green High School and the transition of Meridianville Middle School to an intermediate school for fifth and sixth grades.

Union fight

Officials with the International Motors powertrain-manufacturing plant in Huntsville apparently aren’t going to just idly watch the United Auto Workers union move into their work force.

AL.com’s William Thornton reports that the company has made a case to its employees ahead of a possible election. Last week employees received a letter that read, in part: “To be clear, we strongly believe that selecting an outside organization like a union to represent you in your dealings with the Company (and having to join the union and pay union dues) is not necessary here in Huntsville.”

The UAW has spent time and money over the past couples years trying to get footholds in the South. In Alabama, it’s found disappointment, with an election loss at the Mercedes-Benz plant in Vance and a stalled effort at Hyundai in Montgomery.

Later, Legislature

A couple of state lawmakers are stepping aside.

Tom Butler, a Republican who’s represented parts of Madison and Limestone counties in the state legislature since 1982, is retiring from the Senate, reports AL.com’s Scott Turner. Butler is an 81-year-old retired pharmacist. Among other things, he’s been credited for his roles in road projects such as the four-laning of Alabama 53 to the Tennessee line and the future widening of Highway 72.

Also, the Alabama Daily News reported that state Rep. Debbie Wood, a Valley Republican, is moving out of her district (parts of Chambers and Lee counties) and will resign. She told Alabama Daily News that her husband landed a job in the Florida Panhandle so they’re moving near the state line.

By the Numbers

$800,000

That’s new University of Alabama President Peter Mohler’s salary. He’ll also receive a $30,000 relocation bonus and is in line for performance bonuses of $75,000 in 2025 and $150,000 in 2026.

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Dear Annie: I am a 60-year-old divorced mom with three grown children in their 30s. I have spent most of my adult life putting my family first, especially after my marriage ended more than a decade ago. I raised my kids mostly on my own, worked full time and never really dated seriously again. Part of that was fear, and part of it was being too busy trying to hold everything together.

Now, for the first time in years, I have developed a close friendship with a male co-worker who is about my age. We have worked together for a long time, and over time, that connection has grown into something more intimate. We both agreed that we are not looking for anything serious — just companionship, affection and a little joy in an otherwise routine life.

The problem is, I have not told my children. I worry they will see it as inappropriate or think I am making a mistake. They are very protective of me, and I can already imagine the raised eyebrows and awkward silences. Part of me feels I deserve to enjoy this chapter of my life without having to explain myself, but another part feels guilty, like I am hiding something.

Is it wrong for me to keep this relationship private? Should I tell my children, or is this part of my life none of their business? — Still a Woman, Not Just a Mom

Dear Still a Woman: You have every right to seek companionship and joy in this stage of your life. You spent years putting others first, and it is perfectly natural and healthy to want something that is just for you. Being a mother does not mean you stop being a woman with your own needs, desires and emotions.

Your relationship with your co-worker sounds respectful, mutual and grounded in emotional maturity. There is nothing shameful about wanting closeness, especially when it brings comfort and happiness.

That said, it is also understandable that you are worried about your children’s reactions. Adult children can be surprisingly quick to judge when it comes to their parents’ personal lives, especially if they are used to seeing you only in the role of Mom. They may not mean to be hurtful, but it can be jarring for them to realize that you have a life outside of them. Some adult children struggle with the idea that their parent is no longer just a caregiver or adviser, but a person with vulnerability, desire and autonomy.

But you are allowed to have boundaries, and not everything in your life needs to be shared or explained.

If you choose to tell them, frame it in a way that helps them understand that this is a positive and meaningful part of your life. Let them see that you are not asking for their permission or approval but simply letting them into a part of your world — on your terms. If you choose to keep it private, that is your right, too.

You have taken care of everyone else for so long. It is OK to take care of yourself now. You are still a mother, but you are also still a whole, vibrant person. Don’t lose sight of that.

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“How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?” is out now! Annie Lane’s second anthology — featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation — is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit Creators Publishing for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to [email protected].