DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am at a loss how to address and what to say to a couple with a turbulent marriage. Last I heard from one of the spouses, they were filing for divorce, but that has happened several times before.

I want to express my goodwill sincerely, without stepping into potentially painful territory. I can’t bring myself to write or say, “Happy anniversary!” I have not seen or heard of a status update on social media, but I don’t follow closely. Please advise me how to navigate this tricky territory with respect and kindness.

GENTLE READER: Curious, though, are we? If you have not heard from them, Miss Manners does not see that you have any immediate problem.

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