DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’ve had just about enough of a certain action I see at parties: I feel it’s absolutely rude to decline a piece of the cake.

Sorry to all who think “politely declining” is polite. Take a piece of the darn cake and throw it out later if you can’t eat it. If you’re full, dieting, diabetic or even allergic, just graciously accept it and the host will move on happily.

The cake is made with all the guests in mind, and that costs a lot of time and money. And if, like me, there’s no medical reason not to eat it, taste a piece for good luck.

What is your professional opinion?

GENTLE READER: That “No, thank you” is a response that should be respected. Miss Manners suggests you calm down by ending your practice of monitoring what anyone — other than your own child — does or does not eat.

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