DEAR MISS MANNERS: I kept my birth name when I got married 10 years ago. However, my parents insist on calling me “Mrs. Husband’s Last Name.”

They’ve used a variety of excuses — they were being polite to my husband (who, luckily, doesn’t appreciate their gesture), or they were keeping things simple for the mail carrier. They’ve even insisted that I am still “thinking” about changing my name and that they will use this in the interim.

This has gotten tricky when it has legal/financial consequences. They generously booked a trip for the extended family through their travel agent, but the name they booked doesn’t match any of my travel documents. I got mad at them, and they said I need to “just say thank you” and called me ungrateful. What is the correct response that doesn’t leave me waving to them from the other side of the TSA line?

GENTLE READER: “If you could please use my legal name on any official documents, that would save us all a lot of confusion and paperwork.” And then Miss Manners suggests you let them have their way for the less formal correspondence. At least for the time being.

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