DEAR MISS MANNERS: The doorway from my place of work to the parking garage is at the end of a long hallway. If you are walking down this hallway, there’s only one place you can be going — a set of two doors with a gate where you scan a badge in between.

Possibly because I am an older woman with a limp, people often hold the door for me, even when I am still some distance from the door. I then have the option of continuing to walk at my usual leisurely pace while they stand there, which feels uncomfortable, or speeding up so that they do not have to wait as long, which is also uncomfortable. Or I could yell for them to please not hold the door, which feels impolite.

The door is not heavy, and I am perfectly able to open it myself. What do you suggest? Can I please also suggest to your readers that holding the door is not necessarily the polite thing to do if the person behind you will feel pressured to break into a trot?

GENTLE READER: Unless the person is auditioning to be a doorman (and perhaps even then), one holds the door open only for people who are nearby. But let’s not discourage people from being considerate of others. And nearness is not measured solely in inches. Eight feet may be near for a young adult who sees that the person behind them is loaded down with packages — while a parent, distracted in the rush to pick up a sick child from school, might reasonably consider that far. Those who ignore such reasonable limitations may find they are spending a lot of time standing in corridors. If you want to release them from their good intentions, Miss Manners has no objection to a loud, “Thanks. Please don’t wait for me.”

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