DEAR MISS MANNERS: My extended family members live in different countries, and therefore I don’t have direct contact with my nephews’ small children. I love to send a gift for each child’s birthday; however, I like to ask the parents their opinions first — if the toy I’m considering is safe for the child’s age, if the child would like it, etc.

As we live thousands of kilometers from each other, I must make these purchases online. So in order to ask questions, I send the parents a link so they can see the product. However, this also shows the price. It feels like I am asking the parents about the cost, which is not my intention.

Should I send an image that hides the price? Or is the information more important than disclosing the price?

GENTLE READER: There are, no doubt, technical solutions to your dilemma, but as no sensible reader comes to Miss Manners for computer advice, she will presume such options are not available.

Instead, she recommends both describing the item and asking your questions in your written communication. If necessary, you could even mention the specific brand and model. Such an approach emphasizes the primacy of the thought over the price — by demonstrating that you are willing to forego the convenience of just forwarding another link.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Conversation-wise, what is the best way for everyone to ride in a car when a married couple is driving a single friend? Two in front? Two in back? Rotate every few minutes?

GENTLE READER: Friend in the passenger seat, spouse in back is least likely to result in the guest’s feeling left out of the conversation.

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