Former Miss AL contestant gives bachelor the boot on ‘Farmer Wants a Wife’: ‘I know what I need’
“See ya.” That’s the last thing Allen Foster said to Cassidy Jo Jacks on the most recent episode of “Farmer Wants a Wife.”
Jacks, 28, a former Miss Alabama contestant, was loading her suitcases into an SUV, preparing to make her exit from Foster’s ranch in Tennessee. She appeared to be fighting back tears, but doing her best to keep them in check.
Although it might seem as if Foster was curtly dismissing Jacks, his voice was rueful as he bid her a brief farewell. It was her decision to leave the ranch — and leave his life — after spending several weeks there looking for love.
“I know what I need, and I know what affection that I need to actually make something work,” Jacks told Foster on Wednesday’s episode. “After today, I don’t know if I’ll ever have what I need from you.”
Jacks had gone on a solo date with Foster earlier in the program, taking a canoe trip that turned awkward and resulted in a small quarrel. The encounter, like others in previous weeks, clearly showcased the differences in their personalities.
Jacks, outgoing and vivacious, did not hide her emotions as the cameras rolled. She expressed her feelings to Foster at every turn, and her face nearly always followed suit, showing joy or sorrow, hope or jealousy, delight or confusion.
Foster, on the other hand, proved to be a laconic guy who typically keeps his feelings in check. That didn’t sit well with Jacks, who wanted to know where she stood with him. As Foster stayed mum, Jacks got frustrated.
“I’m just so overwhelmed with, like, all the different things I feel,” Jacks said. “And to be honest, I don’t know if Allen really knows how he feels about me, either.”
When their canoe trip was over, Jacks decided it was time for a moment of truth. She pulled Foster aside, and told him she’d had enough.
“You want something so bad and you can see it in someone, right?” Jacks said. “They have so many characteristics that you pray you’ll find in the one you want to be with forever, right? And then you have to come back down to real life and just recognize it’s not there … It’s just hard after you meet somebody so great like you. At one point in time, I was, like really excited. It’s just sad.”
“Cassidy, you’re a beautiful woman and a sweet woman,” Foster said “There’s been some sort of spark, for me, in you. And I tried and tried how to figure out how that becomes bigger between us, but at the end of the day, I’m not what you need, and I’m not sure you’re what I need.”
“It’s not fair to you; it’s not fair to me, and to be mature enough to acknowledge that and just say, ‘All right, We did try.’ I’m grateful for the time we did get together,” Jacks said.
“Yeah, I wouldn’t trade that for the world,” Foster said. “I think it’s just a difference in personality for me. Not that either one of us is wrong for being the way we are, but it just doesn’t always pan out the way you want it to. And that’s OK.”
And just like that, Jacks’ time on “Farmer Wants a Wife” was over.
“You know, I really respect her a lot for the decision she made,” Foster said. “Because she didn’t feel like that I was exactly what she needed, and I had the same feelings about her. I think we were both trying to force that on each other. We really kind of wanted something to work out, and at the end of the day, it just wasn’t working.”
“There does have to come a time when you realize if something will work for you or won’t,” Jacks said. “Allen’s fun to be around. Romantically, I just don’t think it was there. I think the hardest thing, when you decide to go on a journey like this, is you have hope. I’m proud of myself for showing up here and trying. It’s been one of the hardest things I’ve had to do, because I haven’t been vulnerable in so long. I think going through this journey made me realize I’ve got it in me again, to try.”
Jacks was one of 20 women featured on “Farmer Wants a Wife,” five of whom were competing for Foster’s affections. The series has focused on four farmers: Foster of Tennessee, Hunter Grayson of Georgia, Ryan Black of North Carolina and Landon Heaton of Oklahoma. Each selected a group of women to date on the show, choosing them from an online pool and narrowing the field during the first episode.
(The Fox series, which is filmed in advance, airs on Wednesdays at 8 p.m. CT.)
As the next episode approaches, each farmer will have two women left to court, and a decision to make before the finale airs on May 17. Unless there’s a twist — or a post-finale program that allows the entire cast to look back on their experiences — viewers won’t see Jacks again on the series.
“Thank you to everyone who has supported and encouraged me while you watched my journey unfold each week,” Jacks said on Sunday via Instagram. “There is not a single kind comment, message, or text gone unnoticed. … My hope is that I encouraged others not to be afraid to walk away when something isn’t for you, to be vulnerable, or to ask for what you want even though you don’t know the answer. Most importantly, I hope I encouraged others to not give up and to try again. Love is worth it.”
Jacks grew up in Springville, according to her Facebook page, and graduated from the University of Alabama in 2016, per LinkedIn. (She majored in public relations and communication studies.)
Jacks won several local pageants in Alabama, and competed for Miss Alabama as Miss Tuscaloosa in 2014, Miss Metropolitan in 2015, Miss Trussville in 2016 and Miss Iron City in 2017. As a Miss Alabama contestant, Jacks’ talent was singing, and her philanthropic platform was “Feed a Soul, Fill a Heart,” an effort to feed the hungry and stop food insecurity.
After moving to Arizona in 2017, Jacks competed for Miss Arizona USA in 2021 and won the crown. She also competed for Miss USA that year. Jacks works in medical sales in Scottsdale, Arizona, according to “Farmer Wants a Wife,” and her LinkedIn profile lists her as an account executive at LabCorp.
“I would not say that I am what most people envision when they see the crown,” Jacks said during an interview with Images Arizona. “Just because I have to present myself a certain way does not mean that I do not get down and dirty. It is good to show versatility.”
“Farmer Wants a Wife, described as “Yellowstone” meets “The Bachelor,” is based on a British reality series with the same name. The UK show aired in 2001 and prompted a plethora of spin-offs, including a U.S. version that aired in 2008 on The CW. Fox revived the concept for 2023, hiring country singer Jennifer Nettles (of Sugarland fame) to serve as host.