Dear Annie: Our grandson is getting married at a resort that only allows 40 guests. His wife has decided they need to invite friends instead of family. However, her family members are included.

We are his only living grandparents, so our feelings are hurt. We are not estranged from him; we see him occasionally.

We have not even received an announcement. My husband doesn’t think we should even send a gift. I don’t know how to handle this. — Hurt Grandmother

Dear Hurt Grandmother: The bride is practicing a double standard by keeping your grandson’s family away. That is not a recipe for a happy life.

You have every right to feel hurt. At the end of the day, it is her decision. Whether you send a gift is up to you.

If you feel moved to and there is something you want your grandson to have on his wedding day, then, by all means, don’t be petty, and send him the gift.

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