Dear Annie: My wifeâs libido is increasing while mine is decreasing

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been happily married for 33 years. We have always enjoyed a good sex life, which continues to this day. The problem is our libidos are going in different directions — and probably not the direction most would assume. While mine is beginning to diminish as I age, my wife’s is increasing. Where our previous frequency was every other day, my wife now wants to have sex every day. I just do not have it in me anymore! I’m 61, and she is 59. Any suggestions? — DIMINISHED IN MINNESOTA

DEAR DIMINISHED: I am glad you asked, because I do have one. Ask your doctor to refer you and your wife to a licensed sex therapist. Couples can pleasure one another in ways other than sexual intercourse, and a sex therapist can explain to both of you what your options are.

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