Dear Annie: My marriage is becoming toxic

Dear Annie: What should I do about my marriage, which is becoming toxic?

I don’t know if it’s jealousy or anger that can’t be controlled — without screaming and downright physical altercations at times. When we think we have solved our problems, one can’t forget what the other says or does, and the fights start all over again. He says that he has changed his narcissistic ways, but I still feel controlled and almost afraid of him.

I feel like I am walking on eggshells. Am I reading too much into a bad relationship? — Walking on Eggshells

Dear Walking on Eggshells: You always have a choice. If you choose to stay in the marriage, then you must forgive the past because the only person you are hurting by not forgiving is yourself. You might try seeing a couples counselor before making a final decision about whether to stay or leave. If he is physically abusing you, please call the domestic care hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit their website at https://www.thehotline.org. There is help available for you.

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