Dear Annie: My husband says things without thinking

Dear Annie: I have been married for almost 20 years and have five beautiful babies with my husband. The problem is that he tends to say things without thinking. He can hurt people’s feelings, and he says he doesn’t care because he is just telling the truth.

He has said some hurtful things to me about my weight. I am not a skinny girl and never have been, but try as I might to lose weight, it just won’t stay off. When I tell him he has hurt my feelings, it’s like it goes in one ear and out the other. It’s like he doesn’t even care that he hurts me. He says I am just being crazy and too sensitive.

I don’t know what I should do to make him see how he is hurting me. — Sad Wife

Dear Sad Wife: You are not crazy, and you are not too sensitive. Your husband is mean and insensitive and he tries to hide his cruelty through some sort of a mask, saying that he’s just being blunt and it’s your problem. That is so unfair to you. Next time he says something cruel or hurtful, walk away from him. If he continues to insult you, you might have to contact a marriage counselor. If he refuses to go, then attend counseling yourself and decide if you want to stay in the marriage or not.

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