Dear Annie: My good friend and I were sitting and relaxing on her front porch, when the guy she had a crush on (they weren’t even dating) came walking by.

I asked her if I could have a drink, and she said there was soda in the fridge, so go help myself. I left them outside to talk.

I leaned into the fridge to reach for the soda, and when I stood up and turned around, he was in my face and kissed me. I was shocked and appalled. I went outside and he left.

I struggled with what to do, and felt it was only right to tell my friend. She confronted him, and he told her I had made a pass at him. She blamed me, cut off the friendship and tried to make my life miserable.

That was over 30 years ago. And no, she never did date him.

I realized she wasn’t really a friend to begin with, if she believed him over me. Sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing. — Shocked Friend

Dear Shocked Friend: You absolutely did the right thing.

She sounds like she wasn’t much of a friend in the first place.

What that guy did to you was a form of assault, and she let her feelings for him get in the way of being an empathetic friend to you while you were going through something scary.

Sounds like the two of them deserved each other. They should have dated!

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