Dear Annie: I have a good friend — let’s call her “Lisa” — who I really enjoy spending time with. She’s funny and kind, and we’ve shared a lot over the years. But there’s one recurring issue that’s starting to drive me a little nuts: She is always late for dinner plans.

Every single time we meet, she is late. She’ll usually text something vague such as “Running behind!” or “Be there soon!” but never offers a real explanation and rarely apologizes.

I’ve tried hinting that it bothers me, even joking about it, but she laughs it off or says, “You know how I am!” The truth is, I feel disrespected. I’ve rearranged my schedule, sat awkwardly at restaurants by myself and more than once, I’ve finished my drink before she even walks in. It’s starting to feel like my time doesn’t matter.

I care about our friendship, but I don’t want to keep feeling like the only one trying to show up on time.

What can I say to my chronically late friend without hurting the relationship? —Tired of the Waiting Game

Dear Tired of the Waiting Game: Your friend Lisa may be charming, but her chronic lateness isn’t. It’s rude and inconsiderate, and it sends the message that her time matters more than yours.

People who are always late often hide behind “That’s just how I am!” as if it’s a personality quirk instead of a habit that affects others. It’s time to stop laughing it off.

Have an honest, calm conversation. Let her know you value her friendship, but you’re tired of feeling like an afterthought. And yes — it’s perfectly fair to set a boundary. For example: “If you’re more than 15 minutes late, I’ll go ahead and order — or even leave.” Then stick to it.

You teach people how to treat you. It’s time Lisa got the message.

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