Dear Annie: I have noticed things missing in my house.

After visiting my daughter’s house, I have noticed some of these things at her house. For example, a bracelet that I had been looking for, for months, as well as a coffee mug and a small decorative vase.

How should I go about this? Her boyfriend, who I never trusted, lives with her. I want to confront both of them, but I’m unsure how to go about this. She has three kids, and I don’t want to miss out on seeing them. I have been losing sleep thinking about it. — Untrustworthy

Dear Untrustworthy: Before confronting anyone, make sure you’re certain about what’s happening. Could there be another explanation? Are the items definitely yours?

If you’re sure, have a conversation with your daughter, but avoid anything too accusatory — something like, “I’ve noticed some items missing from my house, and I’m noticing similar items at yours. Can you help me understand how they got there?” This gives her an opportunity to explain herself — or her boyfriend — before you need to point any fingers.

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