Dear Annie: My boyfriend complains incessantly about his multiple ailments

Dear Annie: My boyfriend of six years has multiple ailments. I try to be supportive and help in any way I can. But I find that, as he complains almost every waking moment, my patience is wearing thin. It also stresses me out and frustrates me because it is literally nonstop, and there is nothing his doctor or I can do.

He has a sister who also complains nonstop about ailments, and she has lost relationships due to the stress it causes. I find myself avoiding spending time with him, and I feel sad and guilty.

Do you have any advice for me? Other than the nonstop whining and complaining, he and his sister are good, thoughtful people. — Need Earplugs

Dear Earplugs: Being the partner of a person with severe health issues is no easy feat. While it’s important to be supportive and empathetic of your boyfriend’s health woes, you must also look out for your own well-being.

Gently explain to your boyfriend the toll his negativity takes on you and see what outlets are available for him to work through living with his struggles. Your boyfriend, and his sister, for that matter, might really benefit from support groups, physical therapy or counseling in an effort to cope with their ailments, whether real or imagined.

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