Dear Annie: I used to complain about not receiving thank-you notes, but how many times have you been to a shower where, at the end, the gift receiver graciously gives a heartfelt “thank you”?

In this day and age, it really doesn’t mean that a person isn’t grateful. It has been drilled into their heads to text and to send an answer right away. Next time you see the person, say “thank you,” and remember that a “thank you” is still a “thank you” even if it’s not written on a piece of paper.

I still write thank you notes, but that’s me. It’s part of my growing up when it was the thing you do. — Another Perspective

Dear Another Perspective: I like your letter because you are giving people the benefit of the doubt.

You are assuming that their in-person “thank you” was heartfelt and that was enough for you to feel appreciated.

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