Dear Annie: My adult son barely calls or visits anymore, and when he does, he seems distracted and impatient. I raised him with love and always tried to be there for him. Now I feel forgotten. Should I say something or just give him space? — Feeling Left Behind

Dear Feeling Left Behind: I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. When children grow up and build their own lives, it can sometimes feel like we’ve been left in the shadows. But try not to take his distance personally; it may have more to do with the pace and pressures of his own life than with how he feels about you.

That said, your feelings matter. A gentle, honest conversation might help. Let him know you miss him and would love to hear from him more often — not out of guilt, but because you care and enjoy his company.

Give him the gift of grace, but also give yourself the comfort of connection. Sometimes a simple reminder is all it takes to bring someone back a little closer.

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