Dear Annie: I donât love my cheating husband anymore

Dear Annie: I am so sad for “Sad in Ohio,” the woman whose husband cheated on her. I too have a husband who cheated multiple times in our marriage. The last one was 12 years ago — that I know of!

I haven’t heard of any children from his affairs. And they were affairs, not one-night stands. These involved feelings. This hurt me so badly. We are both 68 now, and I have always thought I couldn’t live without him. I loved him so much!

But alas, I don’t love him anymore. I don’t respect him anymore. I stay because I have nowhere to go, and I can’t afford to live on my own, but we don’t have a marriage. Whenever we have a discussion about how I feel, he always acts surprised, like this is the first he’s heard of it!

So, “Sad,” at least you have love to keep you going. I’m sorry that you were hurt. There are so many of us hurting from cheaters. If only I were younger, sigh. — Sad in Washington

Dear Sad: It is not too late to leave. If you are miserable in your marriage, you can leave. It is not too late. Don’t give up on the possibility of love. You can either go into marriage counseling with your husband and forgive him for all his indiscretions, or you can leave and go find a man who you are happy with and who will be honest with you and respect you.

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