Dear Annie: How do I deal with a manipulative daughter?

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for more than 30 years. He is very loving and a great father and provider. I fell in love with him because he was so level-headed and mild-mannered.

We have two grown daughters. Our oldest does not want to grow up and move out. She’s very manipulative and will resort to shouting. My problem is that we may discuss a resolution, but he cannot enforce it. Many times I feel like he defers to her manipulation over our relationship. I feel like I’ll never be queen of his castle. Any advice? — Wife With a Waffling Husband

Dear Wife: It’s understandable why you feel so defeated. Instead of being able to rely on your husband as a partner in parenting, you’re left to play bad cop and lay down the law with your daughter.

Have an open, honest conversation with your husband about how his avoidance of discipline is making you feel. His actions are not only impacting you but also further enabling your daughter into continuing to depend on you both. It’s important that you two present and maintain a united front, for each other, your daughter and your marriage.

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