Dear Annie: I’m writing in response to “Grieving and Not Prepared for a Confrontation” whose husband died before he could recoup a sum of money he lent to his brother; now, she needs that money and is looking to collect. Your wishy-washy advice to this widow on how to approach her brother-in-law Simon was like advising her to take a water pistol to a gunfight!

This ungrateful brother already “exploded” and made his position clear. “Grieving and Not Prepared” needs to teach this ingrate a lesson, hire a lawyer and subpoena the sister to verify there was indeed a loan that he admitted he would not pay back! This irresponsible jerk should face the music. — Enough Is Enough

Dear Enough: You’re right that Simon needs to be held accountable for his actions — or lack thereof. Seeking the advice of a lawyer is a surefire way to determine what options “Grieving and Not Prepared” has in her situation.

When it comes to people like Simon who are set in their ways and don’t play by the rules, the only hope for getting them to listen is taking action.

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