Dear Annie: Elderly woman should consider moving closer to family

Dear Annie: I am writing regarding “No Visits for Nana,” the elderly woman whose adult daughter, grandchildren and great-grandchildren live two hours away and almost never visit. I find that many elders have unrealistic expectations for their family who are busy with work, school, etc., yet are not particularly amenable to making changes of their own.

“Nana” needs to consider selling her home and moving into adult/assisted living. She can do this near where she currently resides or closer to her family. It does sound as if she would benefit from more social interaction. She may or may not see her family as much as she would like but will probably see them a lot more frequently if she does this. — Champion for Change

Dear Champion: I wholeheartedly agree with you. If “Nana” doesn’t have much tying her down to her current community, a move, when and if feasible, is a no-brainer. Being closer to her family and having more opportunities to see them plus being surrounded by peers in an assisted-living setting equals a win-win.

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