Dear Annie: My husband of 19 years has been physically and emotionally abusive. We have two boys, now ages 18 and 13.

I have tried kicking him out many times. He will leave for one day and then come back. He won’t leave me alone even though I tell him that it’s completely over between us.

I have told him that I’m no longer his wife, that he is nothing to me, but he doesn’t care. He stays at the house, saying it’s his home, too, and as long as he’s not breaking the law, he is gonna stay and there is nothing I can do about it, which is true. I don’t have the money to move. He has a trailer that his family gave him for free, but he won’t go.

He follows me, and ‘m losing my mind. I have nowhere to go. I have no one to call for help. He doesn’t work and hasn’t in years.

Please help me. — Can’t Get My Husband to Leave

Dear Can’t Get My Husband to Leave: Please contact https://www.thehotline.org. It is a domestic violence support hotline, and they can help you plan your exit with your sons.

You also may need the help of a good divorce attorney.

My advice to you is to take action as soon as you can and lean on all the resources that are out there to help you.

You are not alone in this.

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