Dear Annie: This is in response to “Preferring Tradition.” I never liked when couples asked wedding guests to give cash instead of gifts, either. But my daughter and her husband ended up doing this. Many friends and relatives opted to give them gifts instead of cash.

Well, my daughter and her now husband live in San Francisco, California, and the wedding was at home in the Midwest. They came by plane. The gifts had to go by mail, so it fell on Mom and Dad to box and mail all the gifts. We started to ship some, but the cost became so high that we instead decided to load up an SUV, take time off work and make a trip West. It was a real pain, boxing up glass. Now I think cash would have been nicer. — John K.

Dear John K.: It was awfully generous of you and your wife to spend so much time and money on getting your daughter and son-in-law their presents. I hope that huge gift didn’t go unappreciated.

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