DEAR ABBY: I am a single, childless aunt/great aunt. For decades I took on the task of traveling to visit family while the kids were young. No problem. But I’ve recently learned the now-adult kids have been in my area and never contacted me. I was extremely hurt and let them know it when the opportunity presented itself. I am also insulted that they would make no effort. My initial reaction is to no longer make the effort. What to do? — ACHING AUNTIE

DEAR AUNTIE: The first thing to do is ask your nieces and nephews why they didn’t let you know they were nearby. Once you know the reason, you can decide how much effort you want to make to see them in the future.

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