DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced from my ex-husband, “Cliff,” for a year and a half. My nearly adult children live with me. They rarely see their dad. Our divorce was relatively painless, but the custody battle was prolonged, and most of my savings were drained in the process. Cliff pays child support, but I’m still struggling financially to raise two growing teenagers, and I’m worried about them going off to college.

A few months ago, I reconnected with a childhood friend I’ll call “Rob.” We have rediscovered our friendship and see each other often. He recently expressed interest in a romantic relationship. Abby, I’m still in love with my ex-husband! It wasn’t my choice to separate, and although Rob is very sweet, I don’t feel comfortable moving on so quickly. However, he has a high-paying job, and when we occasionally go out to dinner, he always pays the bill. I’m afraid I won’t be able to afford my kids’ college without his financial support.

I’m torn between my love for my children and my continued love for my ex-husband. Should I pursue this relationship even though I don’t feel the same? — ANGUISHED IN ALBUQUERQUE

DEAR ANGUISHED: Tell Rob you are still not over your divorce, and while you like him very much and enjoy his company, you are not ready for a romantic relationship. It is the truth, and he deserves that. As to the fact that you think you still love the husband who wanted the divorce, it’s time to accept that the marriage is history. Once you do that, you may find a future with Rob more to your liking.

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