DEAR ABBY: Over the past few months, due to extenuating circumstances, I have been spending a couple of days a month at my sister’s. While there, I sometimes had the feeling that something was crawling on me, but thought it was just the idea of being somewhere other than my home.

Last time, however, I woke up during the night not only with the crawling feeling, but also the sound of buzzing in my ear. I also noticed that when I sat in the spot where I usually do, bugs were getting in my hair. Now my sister is asking me when I want to come and stay for a couple of days again. I don’t want to hurt her feelings, but I don’t want to deal with bugs again. What should I do? — WARY IN WEST VIRGINIA

DEAR WARY: What you should do is level with your sister. Explain that during the last few visits, you have felt something crawling or buzzing while you were in bed, and that you also noticed some insects getting into your hair. Your sister’s home may have an infestation of some kind, which won’t get any better until she calls a pest-control company.

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