DEAR ABBY: I was married for 20 years. We met when I was 13. Our relationship continued through high school and college. We later married and had three children. I held down a full-time job while taking care of a large house, running the children to practices, helping with homework, etc.

Our marriage fell apart, and we divorced seven years ago. We always attended our children’s events together and stayed connected as each child left the nest and our oldest got married. We both dated others during this time, and I met someone I loved more than anyone I had ever loved before. But that relationship fell apart due to his infidelity.

Two years ago, my ex-husband and I began our relationship anew. We went to counseling and everything was going well. We bought a house together and are living under one roof with our youngest son. The issue is, we have fallen back into the same old pattern. My husband is rude to me and our son. He’s also annoying, and repeats the same conversations over and over. I no longer have any physical attraction to him.

At this point in my life (I am in my 50s), I don’t want to go back out in the dating world, but I miss the companionship and attention I found doing so. Our youngest son is a senior this year and will be going to college. I still own a house (currently on the market), and I could return to it, but because he put my name on the new house, it would be a hassle to balance both. I’m not happy, but I don’t know what to do. — STRUCK OUT TWICE

DEAR STRUCK OUT: If your partner’s repetitiveness is new behavior, get him to his doctor for a thorough physical and neurological examination, because there may be something happening with his health. If that’s not the case, you two may need more relationship counseling to bring you back to the place you were when you reunited.

If counseling fails to achieve the desired result, you will then have to decide what’s more important to you — staying in a loveless relationship or gambling on living a different life and possibly being alone. (I know what I would do.) But if you are more afraid of being alone than living the rest of your life with someone who verbally abuses you and your son, this is a decision you must make for yourself.

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