DEAR ABBY: How do you deal with a jealous adult sibling? My sibling has never spoken of this to me. However, my sibling’s PARTNER made it clear they felt I was favored over my sibling by our parents. I discussed it with our mother. She told me they have helped dig my sibling out of the hole many times.

My sibling has since passed away. But, years later, my in-law mentioned again to me how I’m the “favorite,” with details. I didn’t respond, and just let the person talk about their feelings. I’m not sure what they want from me. Whether their statement is true or not, I don’t think my in-law should be speaking to me about it. Of course, they would never say anything to my parents. If this person brings this topic up again, how should I respond? — MAYBE THE FAVORITE

DEAR MAYBE: Tell your late sibling’s partner you are tired of hearing it, and if they have a complaint to air, it should be made with your parents. If your sibling was irresponsible with money, the fault is not your own. You have nothing to feel guilty about, though it appears this in-law is trying to make you feel that way.

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