DEAR ABBY: I am writing this letter for one of my students who learned about you through the book “Ramona Quimby, Age 8.” Here is her question: “How should I share my feelings with my mom in a healthy way? And how can I be a good big sister while being in a wheelchair and not able to move like my other sisters?” — WONDERING IN THE SOUTH

DEAR WONDERING: To share your feelings with your mother “in a healthy way,” choose a time when she is able to give you her full attention and she isn’t distracted or distressed. Ask when she has time to talk, and tell her you would like to.

And please, do not think that your wheelchair makes you a bad big sister. One of the most important things a sibling can do is to be kind, loving and a GOOD LISTENER. Offer advice when it is needed. And remember, sometimes time can be the most important gift of all.

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