DEAR ABBY: I am a 52-year-old woman. I am single and have no children, but I’m a loving aunt to many.

I had an older sister who died before my older brother and I were born. She was born with special needs and lived for only 10 months. My parents never kept it a secret.

Knowing I had an older sister makes me want to find a big sister figure. I sometimes fantasize that a particular beloved TV actress is my sister. She did a Cameo video for my 50th birthday, and I have met her wonderful husband twice at fan conventions. I told him I thought his wife was a beautiful angel. I am not gay, but I love her. Am I weird? — FANGIRL IN WISCONSIN

DEAR FANGIRL: It isn’t weird to feel an attachment to a celebrity. However, it’s important to be able to distinguish between reality and fantasy. You “see” this person on a regular basis, but you do not have an actual relationship with her. Close friends often consider themselves to be “sisters” and use the term when addressing each other. You might find what you are reaching out for closer to home if you step back and look for it.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.