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Did Biden get Trump elected? Kamala Harris allies blame him for her defeat

Joe Biden’s name wasn’t on the ballot, but history will likely remember Kamala Harris’ resounding defeat as his loss too.

As Democrats pick up the pieces after President-elect Donald Trump’s decisive victory, some of the vice president’s backers are expressing frustration that Biden’s decision to seek reelection until this summer — despite long-standing voter concerns about his age and unease about post-pandemic inflation as well as the U.S.-Mexico border — all but sealed his party’s surrender of the White House.

“The biggest onus of this loss is on President Biden,” said Andrew Yang, who ran against Biden in 2020 for the Democratic nomination and endorsed Harris’ unsuccessful run. “If he had stepped down in January instead of July, we may be in a very different place.”

Biden will leave office after leading the United States out of the worst pandemic in a century, galvanizing international support for Ukraine after Russia’s invasion and passing a $1 trillion infrastructure bill that will affect communities for years to come.

But having run four years ago against Trump to “restore the soul of the country,” Biden will make way after just one term for his immediate predecessor, who overcame two impeachments, a felony conviction and an insurrection launched by his supporters. Trump has pledged to radically reshape the federal government and roll back many of Biden’s priorities.

“Maybe in 20 or 30 years, history will remember Biden for some of these achievements,” said Thom Reilly, co-director of the Center for an Independent and Sustainable Democracy at Arizona State University. “But in the shorter term, I don’t know he escapes the legacy of being the president who beat Donald Trump only to usher in another Donald Trump administration four years later.”

The president on Wednesday stayed out of sight for the second straight day, making congratulatory calls to Democratic lawmakers who won downballot races and to Trump. Biden invited Trump for a White House meeting, and the president-elect accepted.

Biden on Thursday avoided directly addressing the electorate’s seeming repudiation of his presidency. Instead, he noted that Americans will feel the effects of the administration’s signature legislative efforts for years to come.

“Don’t forget all that we accomplished,” Biden said in a brief Rose Garden address attended by Cabinet members and top aides but not by Harris. “It’s been a historic presidency — not because I am president but because of what we’ve done. What you’ve done.”

He issued a statement shortly after Harris delivered her concession speech Wednesday, praising her for running an “historic campaign” under “extraordinary circumstances.”

Some high-ranking Democrats, including three advisers to the Harris campaign, expressed deep frustration with Biden for failing to recognize earlier in the election cycle that he was not up to the challenge. The advisers spoke on the condition of anonymity because they were not authorized to comment publicly.

Biden, 81, ended his reelection campaign in July, weeks after an abysmal debate performance sent his party into a spiral and raised questions about whether he still had the mental acuity and stamina to serve as a credible nominee.

But polling long beforehand showed that many Americans worried about his age. Some 77% of Americans said in August 2023 that Biden was too old to be effective for four more years, according to a poll by the AP-NORC Center for Public Affairs.

The president bowed out on July 21 after getting not-so-subtle nudges from Democratic Party powers, including former President Barack Obama and former House Speaker Nancy Pelosi of California. Biden endorsed Harris and handed over his campaign operation to her.

Yang argued that Democratic Party leaders also deserve blame for taking too long to push out Biden. With few exceptions, most notably Minnesota Rep. Dean Phillips, Democrats shied away talking publicly about Biden’s age.

“Why was this not coming from any Democratic leaders?” Yang said. “It’s a lack of courage and independence and an excess of careerism, if I just keep my mouth shut, we’ll just keep on trucking along.”

The campaign was also saddled by anger among some Arab American and young voters over its approach to Israel’s conflicts in Gaza and Lebanon. Sen. Bernie Sanders, an ally of Biden and Harris, said in a statement that Democrats lost the thread on working class Americans’ concerns.

“Will the big money interests and well-paid consultants who control the Democratic Party learn any real lessons from this disastrous campaign?” the Vermont independent said. “Will they understand the pain and political alienation that tens of millions of Americans are experiencing?”

Democratic National Committee Chair Jaime Harrison took to social media Thursday to push back on Sanders’ critique, saying that Biden was “the most-pro worker President of my life time.”

Harris managed to spur far greater enthusiasm than Biden was generating from the party’s base. But she struggled to distinguish how her administration would differ from Biden’s.

Appearing on ABC’s “The View” in September, Harris was not able to identify a decision where she would have separated herself from Biden. “There is not a thing that comes to mind,” Harris said, giving the Trump campaign a sound bite it replayed through Election Day.

The strategists advising the Harris campaign said the compressed campaign timetable made it even more difficult for Harris to differentiate herself from the president.

Had Biden stepped aside early in the year, they said, it would have given Democrats enough time to hold a primary. Going through the paces of an intraparty contest would have forced Harris or another eventual nominee to more aggressively stake out differences with Biden.

The strategists acknowledged that overcoming broad dissatisfaction among the American electorate about rising costs in the aftermath of the coronavirus pandemic and broad concerns about the U.S. immigration system weighed heavy on the minds of voters in key states.

Still, they said that Biden had left Democrats in an untenable place.

Harris senior adviser David Plouffe in a posting on X called it a “devastating loss.” Plouffe did not assign blame and said the Harris campaign “dug out of a deep hole but not enough.” The post was later deleted.

At the vice president’s concession speech on Wednesday, some Harris supporters said they wished the vice president had had more time to make her pitch to American voters.

“I think that would have made a huge difference,” said Jerushatalla Pallay, a Howard University student who attended the speech at the center of her campus.

Republicans are poised to control the White House and Senate. Control of the House has yet to be determined.

Matt Bennett, executive vice president at the Democratic-aligned group Third Way, said this moment was the most devastating the party has faced in his lifetime.

“Harris was dealt a really bad hand. Some of it was Biden’s making and some maybe not,” said Bennett, who served as an aide to Vice President Al Gore during the Clinton administration. “Would Democrats fare better if Biden had stepped back earlier? I don’t know if we can say for certain, but it’s a question we’ll be asking ourselves for some time.”

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Scouting report: what to know about the UConn Huskies before week 9 matchup with UAB

The UAB Blazers are now 2-6 after winning their first game since August in blowout fashion against Tulsa last weekend and are hosting a UConn team that has defied expectations this season.

The 59-21 rout of Tulsa that earned multiple Blazers national and conference honors is going to be hard to repeat against a stout defense, but they’ll need to carry some of the momentum on offense if they want to upset UConn.

Their matchup at 1:30 p.m. at Protective Stadium on Saturday will be the first meeting between the two football programs in history.

Here’s the report on the Huskies:

The Team

Through nine games in 2024 UConn has already doubled their win total in ’23, and due to a bizarre bit of scheduling, they’re coming to Birmingham after playing six-straight games at home.

Their last road game was on September 14th in Durham, NC when they faced and lost to the Duke Blue Devils 21-26. On this prolonged homestead, the Huskies collected five of their six wins on the year, with three of them being over American Athletic opponents FAU, Temple and Rice.

Leading the turnaround this season has been the offense, which has taken a massive step up in almost all categories.

The Huskies sit just outside the top 50 in national rankings of total offensive yards per game, with 406.3 per contest, but rank 38th in the country in scoring, putting up almost 32 points per game on average.

Their passing offense is subpar, only throwing for 204.8 yards per game, but it’s hardly a sign of weakness.

The strength of this Husky team comes in their rushing attack, which ranks 25th in the country in yardage, with 201.6 yards per game, and 30th in rushing touchdowns with 17. It’s an aspect of their game they lean on, with 372 rushing attempts on the season compared to just 262 passes.

UConn boasts an extremely impressive defense, too. It’s one that ranks 37th nationally with 330.9 yards allowed per game, and 32nd in scoring defense, only allowing 21 points to opponents a game.

There’s no consensus on how to get past them, either, as their pass defense ranks 38th in the FBS and their rush defense ranks 51st.

The Coach

Jim Mora is in his third season as the head coach of the Huskies, and it’s looking to be his best so far.

He finished his first in 2022 with a bowl appearance after a 6-6 regular season, followed by a steep regression in 2023 where UConn went 3-9.

After two seasons as the offensive line coordinator, where he helped produce third round draft pick Christian Haynes in 2023, Gordon Sammis was promoted to offensive and run game coordinator prior to the 2024 season.

The Huskies came into 2024 with a new play-caller on defense, too, as Mora announced former Mississippi State defensive coordinator Matt Brock would fill the position this offseason.

Brock’s defense relies heavily on its backfield, and primarily runs a 4-2-5 “nickel” formation that excels in taking away the passing attack of opponents.

Players to watch

UConn’s offensive backfield contains a three-headed attack led by Durrell Robinson, who has the least carries (80) of the three, but almost 90 more yards than the other two, with 586 on the season and a team-leading six touchdowns and 7.3 yards per carry average.

The other two are also spectacular, as both Mel Brown and Cam Edwards have 498 and 445 yards respectively, along with a combined six touchdowns between the two.

The receiving attack is led by Skylar Bell, who’s caught 30 passes for 601 yards and four touchdowns. His 20 yards per catch is the 12th highest in America.

On defense, senior linebacker Tui Faumuina-Brown leads the team in solo tackles, and has recorded two sacks and a forced fumble on the season.

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NFL Week 10: Former Alabama prep star to play 2 roles for Panthers

Former Madison Academy star Jordan Matthews could be running some new routes for the Carolina Panthers on Sunday.

The Panthers traded wide receiver Diontae Johnson to the Pittsburgh Steelers on Oct. 29, but he remains the NFL team’s leading receiver with 30 receptions for 357 yards and three touchdowns.

On Tuesday, Carolina traded wide receiver Jonathan Mingo to the Dallas Cowboys. Mingo had 12 receptions for 121 yards, and his departure leaves the Panthers with three wide receivers who have more than eight receptions nine games into the 2024 season.

Quarterback Bryce Young will have three active-roster wide receivers to target when Carolina meets the New York Giants on Sunday in Munich, Germany — Jalen Coker, Xavier Legette and David Moore. Legette is a 2024 first-round draft pick, Coker an undrafted rookie and Moore a seven-year veteran who had five receptions across the previous four seasons.

The Panthers will turn to their practice squad and Matthews to fill in as needed.

“We’re counting on Deven Thompkins helping us at wide receiver,” Carolina coach Dave Canales said on Wednesday. “And then Jordan Matthews, who played receiver in his background — he’s a tight end now by training. But I think he’s the second-leading (career) catch and touchdown-maker on our team after Adam Thielen, so I got a lot of confidence in Jordan, and we’re going to count on him to help us out, too, in that way.”

A 1,000-yard receiver last season, 11-year veteran Thielen had eight receptions in the first three games this season before going on injured reserve with a hamstring issue. He returned to practice on Oct. 23, but Thielen has had only four limited practices and did not practice on Wednesday.

As a Vanderbilt wide receiver, Matthews broke SEC career records with 262 receptions for 3,759 yards. As a second-round draft pick, Matthews had caught 225 passes for 2,673 yards and 19 touchdowns for Philadelphia in his first three NFL seasons when the Eagles traded him to the Buffalo Bills during training camp in 2017.

Matthews has been bedeviled by injuries since the trade, including missing the entire 2022 season. Over the past eight seasons, he has 49 receptions for 615 yards and three touchdowns in 34 games with the Bills, Eagles, San Francisco 49ers and Panthers.

In 2021, Matthews decided to transition from a wide receiver to a tight end and added 20 pounds to make the position switch. On Sunday, he could be switching back and forth.

“He’ll be able to do a little bit of both,” Canales said. “So really cool to just kind of have some of those versatile players like (offensive lineman) Brady (Christensen), like Jordan, who can give us some flexibility and get it done.”

Before entering the NFL, Matthews was a football and basketball standout for Madison Academy. He helped the Mustangs win the AHSAA Class 3A boys’ basketball championship in 2008 and reach the title game the next two seasons. In football, Matthews earned All-State recognition in 2009, when he caught 61 passes for 1,061 yards and 13 touchdowns to boost his prep total to 38 TD receptions.

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The Alabama Game of the Week is the Detroit Lions-Houston Texans contest on Sunday night. Thirteen players from Alabama high schools and colleges are on the teams’ active rosters.

The Week 10 schedule (with all times Central and point spreads from BetMGM):

Thursday

· Cincinnati Bengals at Baltimore Ravens (-6), 7:15 p.m. (Prime Video)

Sunday

· New York Giants (-6.5) vs. Carolina Panthers in Munich, Germany, 8:30 a.m. (NFL Network)

· New England Patriots at Chicago Bears (-6.5), noon

· Buffalo Bills (-4) at Indianapolis Colts, noon

· Minnesota Vikings (-4.5) at Jacksonville Jaguars, noon

· Denver Broncos at Kansas City Chiefs (-8.5), noon

· Atlanta Falcons (-3.5) at New Orleans Saints, noon (WBRC, WZDX, WALA, WCOV, WDFX)

· San Francisco 49ers (-6) at Tampa Bay Buccaneers, noon

· Pittsburgh Steelers at Washington Commanders (-3), noon (WIAT, WTVY, WHNT, WKRG, WAKA)

· Tennessee Titans at Los Angeles Chargers (-7.5), 3:05 p.m.

· New York Jets at Arizona Cardinals (-1), 3:25 p.m.

· Philadelphia Eagles (-7.5) at Dallas Cowboys, 3:25 p.m. (WIAT, WTVY, WHNT, WKRG, WAKA)

· Detroit Lions (-3.5) at Houston Texans, 7:20 p.m. (NBC)

Monday

· Miami Dolphins at Los Angeles Rams (-1), 7:15 p.m. (ESPN)

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Teams on their bye this week are the Cleveland Browns, Green Bay Packers, Las Vegas Raiders and Seattle Seahawks.

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Mark Inabinett is a sports reporter for Alabama Media Group. Follow him on Twitter at @AMarkG1.

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From the economy to transgender athletes: Alabama voters on why they voted for Trump, Harris or RFK

President-elect Donald Trump on Tuesday night swept his third consecutive election in the conservative stronghold of Alabama.

He won Alabama by 65% this time, up from about 62% in 2020 and 2016.

What drove that overwhelming show of support for Trump in Alabama? And what motivated those in the minority that voted for Vice President Kamala Harris?

For 22-year-old Leah Pursifull, voting for Trump felt like a vote to keep the Mobile-area coffee shop she owns open and thriving.

“Most people can’t afford to work a cool job like this, just because of how the economy is. So, I mean, you look back when he was in office, it was way better,” Pursifull said. “Look at the world right now, like how high prices are, like people can hardly survive.”

In Birmingham, Cheryl Knight, 41, works in finance and cast a ballot for Trump in hopes that he will make daily living more affordable.

“I do hope that he will work on helping bring prices down, so I know he’s looked at doing that a lot through focusing on the oil, so to help bring prices down there, which will hopefully have a trickle-down effect,” she said.

Charlie Spencer, a longtime Republican voter in Birmingham said he left the response for his presidential vote blank on his ballot, saying he could not support Trump.

“I don’t think either one of them is fit to be president,” he said, adding that he would like Florida Gov. Ron DeSantis to be in the role.

“He’s demeaning to people,” Spencer said of Trump. “He’s very vindictive and he, to me, that he’s not really in control of his faculties. He talks all over himself, (he) contradicts himself, and he threatens people.”

Spencer said he has been watching MSNBC, a liberal-leaning television network, and said he thinks the coastal commentators don’t understand the country because they live in a bubble. He referenced the Blacks and Latinos who shifted their votes towards Trump this election.

Several Harris supporters in Alabama told AL.com they hope Trump does a good job. Others said they were baffled at how so many people could support her opponent.

“It’s like our parents joined the cult and we got dragged into it,” said Elizabeth Hannon, 58, Mobile. “I can’t even begin to understand what his appeal is to people, but it’s there, right? I don’t think anybody could have won against him.”

Birmingham resident Betty Knight, an 82-year-old lifelong Democratic voter, said she does not believe the United States is ready to elect a female president, unlike countries in Europe.

“I was for her, but I didn’t think she had a chance,” Knight said. “A woman in this United States of America, they’re not ready for that yet. They’re not like England.”

Still, Knight hopes for the best for the next four years.

“We have to support whoever,” she said. “The showman got in, so eventually I’ll be okay, and hopefully he will do something good.”

Vicki Durst, 61, of Birmingham said she voted for Harris because she just doesn’t like Trump.

“I couldn’t even pinpoint one thing or another. It’s just I don’t really know much about Harris either. I just know that I don’t like Trump.”

Other people AL.com spoke with said that they did not vote, either because they felt uninformed or because they did not believe they would make a difference as Democratic voters.

One man in Birmingham said he had not voted in an election since he was drafted against his will for the Vietnam War.

Some Trump supporters voiced ambivalence about their vote. Brandon Erwin, 45, of Mobile, would prefer to vote for a libertarian candidate.

“I’m just very socially conservative, and that’s why I would lean more towards just a conservative party,” he said.

His daughter, Kylee, 21, cast her first presidential vote for Trump as well.

“I read up on both him and Harris before the election, just so I would go into it with like, a clear mind,” Kylee said. “And what stood out to me, was that he was going to cut funding going towards that [Ukraine] war, as well as fixing up the border and deporting illegal immigrants.”

He said he is interested in RFK’s health agenda.

“I have a young daughter and so that’s made us a lot more aware of just all the things and crap that goes into our food.”

Jackson Bradford, 32, of Hoover, leans moderate conservative and chose to cast his ballot for Robert F. Kennedy, who he said he feels is more reasonable than Trump.

Bradford said he is glad to get Trump’s last four years out of the way.

Weather Rollings, 33, of Birmingham, said she voted for Trump. She said she is a strong conservative, and her husband, who is more liberal, also voted for Trump.

While she said she wouldn’t want to “get a beer” with Trump, she is pleased with the election results.

She said the economy was her top priority, and she believes his tariffs plan will help bring down inflation. Her other focus was on her toddler daughter and making sure she does not encounter a transgender person in an athletic context some day.

“I think that female sports should be biological females, and I think male sports should be same both ways,” she said. “I just want to keep her innocence as long as possible.”

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Jimmy Kimmel gets emotional, fights back tears talking Trump’s election win: ‘A terrible night’

Jimmy Kimmel fought back tears Wednesday when talking about Donald Trump’s presidential election win.

“We had a choice between a prosecutor and a criminal, and we chose the criminal to be the President of the United States,” he declared.

Trump defeated Vice President Kamala Harris to become the 47th president of the United States.

“It was a terrible night for women, for children, for the hundreds of thousands of hardworking immigrants who make this country go, for health care, for our climate, for science, for journalism, for justice, for free speech,” Kimmel said as he got emotional. “It was a terrible night for poor people, for the middle class, for seniors who rely on Social Security, for our allies in Ukraine, for NATO, for the truth and democracy and decency.

“It was a terrible night for everyone who voted against him, and guess what? It was a bad night for everyone who voted for him, too. You just don’t realize it yet.”

Kimmel also took a swipe at the idea the election wasn’t fixed.

“I guess this election wasn’t rigged,” he said. “That’s weird though, right? I mean, he said it would be rigged. He said it was being rigged while people were in line voting! Isn’t it remarkable that this time, the fix wasn’t in? Last time, the Democrats cheated. This time, we chose not to, I guess.”

He then compared Trump as to Star Wars’ Emperor Palpatine.

“Donald Trump is like the emperor from ‘Star Wars.’ He’s old, he’s evil and he keeps coming back with no reasonable explanation whatsoever.”

Mark Heim is a reporter for The Alabama Media Group. Follow him on Twitter @Mark_Heim. He can be heard on “The Opening Kickoff” on WNSP-FM 105.5 FM in Mobile or on the free Sound of Mobile App from 6 to 9 a.m. daily.

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Dear Annie: I finally found love, but his health is failing

Dear Annie: I am a 64-year-old woman who got divorced after 35 years of marriage. After two years of “kissing frogs,” I believe I’ve finally found my prince. He’s a kidney dialysis patient, and we’ve been together for over a year. We love each other deeply.

Recently, he told me he was on the waiting list for a kidney transplant, but to our dismay, he’s since learned that he no longer qualifies and will have to remain on dialysis for the rest of his life.

I’m heartbroken for him, as he’s 67 and comes from a family with longevity. At the same time, I find myself confused and uncertain about our future together, knowing that this will significantly affect our life as a couple.

I love him, but I’m struggling with what this means for us in the long term. How can I be the best support for him while also considering how this will change our life together? I’m torn between my feelings for him and the practical realities we’ll have to face.

Any advice would be appreciated. — Concerned in WA

Dear Reader: Congratulations on finding your prince. While he has this health issue, he is still your prince, and that means you love him.

Focus on continuing your support of him and getting him the best medical care. At the end of the day, wouldn’t you rather live with your prince who has a health problem than a fit-as-a-fiddle frog?

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Dear Annie: I’m losing my son to his controlling new wife

Dear Annie: We used to have an excellent relationship with our son, and he has a daughter who is now 19 years old. Seven years ago, he met a divorced woman whom we initially liked, but over time, things changed drastically.

Since this new relationship began, our son’s bond with his daughter has deteriorated to the point where they hardly see each other anymore, simply because, according to them, they’re always “too busy.”

While we’ve managed to maintain a wonderful relationship with our granddaughter, things with our son have become strained, largely due to his new wife, who has become very controlling. She clearly dislikes us, and as a result, our relationship with him has virtually collapsed.

Recently, our son had a breakdown, and we’re not allowed to see him at all. This has deeply hurt us, and his daughter is heartbroken as well. It’s painful to watch her suffer, knowing she’s lost her connection with her father, and we’re unsure how to help.

How can we possibly repair this broken relationship with our son when his wife seems determined to keep us at a distance? Is there any way we can support him through this difficult time without alienating him further or creating more tension? We are desperate for advice on how to rebuild our family ties before it’s too late. — Heartbroken Parents

Dear Heartbroken Parents: This is an incredibly difficult situation for everyone involved. The hard truth is that the only person who can truly help your son is your son himself; he has to want the help and be ready to accept it.

In the meantime, continue reaching out to your daughter-in-law from a place of pure love and concern for your son’s well-being, and for the sake of your granddaughter.

While it’s understandable to feel that she is controlling (which I don’t doubt she may be), placing blame on her won’t help your son or granddaughter in the present moment.

What can help is showing unconditional love and support for your son, while practicing non-judgmental acceptance toward your daughter-in-law. This approach may give your son the emotional space he needs to heal and, ultimately, reconnect with his family.

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Dear Annie: I’m desperate to move but my husband and son won’t budge

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 45 years, and at 72 and 67, we are both struggling with health issues. Our 43-year-old son still lives with us and works a low-income job. We’re retired, of course, and unfortunately, our two-story home has become increasingly difficult to manage due to our health conditions. Getting up the stairs to our bedrooms is a daily challenge.

For nearly 70 years, I’ve lived in this neighborhood, and frankly, it feels like it’s falling apart. Recently, several homes on our street have been condemned and torn down, leaving the area looking like a war zone. Even before this, we were surrounded by squatters and other unsettling conditions. Mentally and physically, I’m deteriorating quickly, and I feel trapped.

We own our home outright, which my husband and son see as a reason to stay. But I can’t take it anymore. I’m on the verge of breaking down, and the anxiety and depression from being stuck in this environment are overwhelming. I know I need to leave, but I’m torn because I don’t want to break up my family.

How can I convince them that selling our home and moving somewhere healthier is the best option? I’m desperate for a change, but they’re clinging to the idea that because we own the house, we should stay. The house is over 120 years old and needs a lot of work. Renting it out isn’t an option; I just want to sell it quickly and move on before my mental health deteriorates any further.

Please, I need advice on how to move forward without tearing my family apart. Any help or guidance would be deeply appreciated. — Two Against One and Fading Fast

Dear Reader: First off, I’m truly sorry to hear that your neighborhood has declined so rapidly. The best way to move forward is to continue doing exactly what you’re doing — communicating your needs clearly to your husband and son. Your concerns about living in a walk-up for health reasons are completely valid.

Selling your home could offer a solution that benefits everyone. With the profits, you might be able to buy a new home outright, and you can remind your husband that you’d still own property, just in a different location that supports your health and well-being. Take the time to research neighborhoods and homes you’d enjoy living in, and work with a good realtor to explore options. Show your husband and son what’s possible; they might just realize what they’ve been missing.

People often fear change, but sometimes change is exactly what we need. Your health is the priority — both mental and physical. As the saying goes, “health is wealth,” and if this house is harming your health, it’s time to move on.

If your husband and son still won’t listen to your concerns, it may be time to seek the guidance of a professional therapist.

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Dear Annie: I feel unsafe in my own home due to solicitors

Dear Annie: We recently moved into a new house, and within just three months, we’ve had a parade of solicitors knocking on our door or ringing our doorbell. After the sixth one, I became so frustrated that I started using the Ring app on my phone to respond to them remotely because I simply didn’t want to deal with it anymore.

However, if I ignore them, they often come back later! It’s like they don’t understand — or care — that they’re not welcome.

To try to solve the problem, we even went out and purchased several “No Trespassing” and “No Solicitation” signs, which are clearly visible from the street. And yet, despite these signs, they still have the nerve to walk right onto our property and ring the doorbell! I don’t understand — what is wrong with these people? Can’t they respect our privacy and follow the obvious signs?

It’s becoming more than just a nuisance; it’s genuinely unsettling. There’s something about strangers knocking on your door uninvited that makes you feel unsafe in your own home. These solicitors are even worse than junk mail or email spammers because, unlike an unwanted message in my inbox, they’re physically intruding on my personal space. I don’t think these people realize just how intrusive and inappropriate their actions feel.

Please, help spread the word that most of us don’t want strangers showing up at our doorstep uninvited. It’s not only annoying but also disturbing to have to deal with this constantly. — Sick of Solicitors

Dear Sick of Solicitors: If you have already put up signs and asked the solicitors to stop, then at that point they are trespassing on your property.

Next time you face this issue, consider asking your neighbors what they do. You might even band together and see if the police can enforce a no-solicitation policy in your neighborhood.

With everything you’re bombarded with outside your home, you absolutely have the right to protect the peace and sanctity inside your home.

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