Dear Eric: Often when I make a comment or tell a story my husband corrects me. If I try and defend what I’ve said, he just implies that I’m wrong and he’s right. It can be embarrassing when we are out socially. Most of the time I let it slide. Because if I try to point out that I’m correct and he’s wrong, he just carries on as if he’s right. At home, I’ll find evidence that proves that I was right. He just goes “Oh.” I explain to him that I am embarrassed by him correcting me in front of others. He doesn’t seem to care. What should I do?

– Embarrassed

Dear Embarrassed: We have a respect problem here. It’s bad enough that your husband’s default mode seems to be assuming that you’re wrong about everything. That’s an unhealthy place from which to operate in any relationship, to say the least. But his non-response to you when you tell him that his behavior hurts you is downright callous.

Even if, in his opinion, you are getting details wrong, he needs to treat you with enough respect and empathy that any corrections are offered in a helpful manner and at the right time. But, more importantly, who cares if the details are wrong? It’s your story! He needs to just pipe down and let you finish.

I encourage you to stop letting it slide. Tell him, “I don’t like when you correct me. It’s not helpful. I want you to stop. Can you respect my wishes?” You can tell him in private and remind him when you’re out socially. I’d also encourage you to stop trying to prove your point to him. He’s not a good audience for it. I think both of your energies would be better spent working – probably with a therapeutically trained third party – on what’s behind his need to correct in the first place.

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