Dear Eric: I am a 33-year-old male on the autism spectrum. I have a friend, “Katie,” who has been a big part of my life for the last few years. I have been a mentor and friend for her three little boys, and she, in return, has been a good friend to me.

Katie deals with a lot of anxiety (she considers herself neurodiverse, possibly on the High Functioning Autism spectrum as well). Recently, she was facing eviction from her apartment, and my father arranged to help Katie stay in her apartment.

Katie received more than $10,000 to help with the back rent. However, since then, Katie hasn’t texted or called me or my father. It’s been weeks since we have heard from her. We’re puzzled and, frankly, feeling miffed that our generosity would be rewarded with this type of behavior.

– Taken for Granted

Dear Granted: It’s possible Katie’s radio silence is a sign of executive dysfunction, which many neurodiverse people negotiate. The prospect of thanking you and your father for your help may seem like a daunting task that only grows more daunting the more time elapses.

Whatever the reason, the easiest – and kindest – way to clear things up is to reach out to check in. You and Katie have a long history. Something has happened on her side that’s disrupting that. Maybe she’s overwhelmed, maybe it’s rudeness, maybe it’s embarrassment. Give her a call to re-establish your connection. Find out what’s going on in her life. And, as a friend, let her know how her behavior affected you.

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