Dear Amy: My wonderful fiancée and I are getting married in two months. We have shared the planning duties really well, and we’re really looking forward to our big day.

We are planning for around 100 guests.

We sent out “Save the Date” cards, and last month I sent out the final invitations via the US Mail. This was my job.

About 35 people have submitted their RSVP.

What about the rest?!

We’re worried that people don’t want to come to our wedding and that we will have to scale our plans back dramatically. I feel like a loser because this was my responsibility.

What should we do?

– Nervous Groom

Dear Nervous: This issue is universal. It’s not you, it’s them.

Now is the time for you to rattle the mailbox.

If you have a wedding website, you can post a notice: “We’re still waiting to hear from some guests. Have you sent your RSVP? If not, click here…”

Otherwise, start emailing/texting people. Don’t blame or shame them, but give them a nudge.

One month out, you should call all those left on the list.

(I have both made and received a nudging phone call. Because … stuff happens.)

You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068.