Dear Amy: I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with “Ross” for about six months.

We met when he was visiting my hometown on a business trip.

I work at the hotel where he was staying, we exchanged numbers and started texting and calling back and forth.

He has visited two more times and stayed for the weekend. We talked about being in an exclusive relationship and agreed that we wouldn’t see other people.

He tends to be really private – almost secretive, I guess. I know what town he lives in but not much more about his lifestyle. He has sent me photos and we FaceTime back and forth.

I am starting to wonder if he is married.

I went onto Facebook and he doesn’t have an account but I think I have seen recent photos of him with a woman. Now I’m unsure.

– Unsure

Dear Unsure: “Ross” is waving a number of red flags.

First, you should ask him if he is married or in another relationship.

Next, you should tell him that you will be visiting his hometown the following weekend and you’d like to stay with him.

If he is in a serious, exclusive relationship with you, he will open up his life to you. This means that you should see his home and meet his cat, his friends and his folks.

You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068.