Dear Amy: My mother-in-law recently died. She left her farm property to my wife and her siblings.

I’m wondering if I have a say in how my wife handles her portion of the estate?

– Concerned Husband

Dear Concerned: In a word, no.

This inheritance will belong to your wife and her siblings. Unless you are specifically named in the will, you are not included.

Some families handle the disposition of their inheritance by meeting together with only the inheritors, specifically excluding spouses. It depends on the family dynamic, but generally speaking leaving spouses and in-laws at home while details are worked out can make a difficult situation a little easier.

If your wife chooses to share her inherited assets with you, then you’ll have your say.

You and your wife should check the inheritance laws in your state.

You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068.