Dear Annie: I don’t know how to act. My husband’s nephew is getting married in another state. We heard all the aunts and uncles were invited, but we never received a save the date or an invite.

My sisters-in-law and mother-in-law are aware that we didn’t get an invite. A couple brothers-in-law asked if we were attending the wedding — obviously assuming all would be invited. It was uncomfortable having to tell them we were never invited. They said it must have been an oversight, but there has been a month to correct the oversight, and still no invite.

Do I just let this go? I’m feeling pretty slighted by my husband’s family. We’ve always had decent relations with all family members, nothing out of the ordinary besides some usual family drama over the years.

This is a large family, and I understand the invitation number is tight, and it will be a small wedding. Still, I can’t help feeling slighted. How do I get past this? I’m uncomfortable calling my sister-in-law; if we get invited now, it is too late. The damage is done. — Feeling Slighted

Dear Feeling Slighted: I agree it’s a bad idea to call your sister-in-law at this point. If the invite hasn’t come, bringing it up might only create unnecessary tension. Since the wedding is small and space is limited, it’s likely that the guest list had to be trimmed, even if that’s hard to accept.

Instead, try to focus on the bigger picture — your relationship with your husband’s family beyond this one event. Once the wedding passes, you can continue to maintain a positive relationship with them, so long as you don’t hold on to any resentment. Although the lack of an invitation feels personal, weddings are bound by limitations such as budget and venue capacity, and sometimes decisions are made that don’t reflect deeper feelings.

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