DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I will be hosting a family gathering for our kids and grandkids. On top of having many people to feed, there are my (medically dictated) dietary restrictions to consider.

We have a family member who is curious about my special food and wants to sample it, even though I’ve explained there’s a purposeful reason for the difference in what I’m eating and the food I’ve prepared for guests.

What should I do when the whole family of 11 gathers in our home? Am I coming across as selfish or snooty when I try to mark a distinction between the foods provided? Should I prepare my food in the utility room instead of the kitchen?

GENTLE READER: Is your special food so flavorless that you cannot make it for the whole family?

For your sake, Miss Manners hopes not. She suggests that you create a menu, at least 75% of which is OK for you to eat. Then, just for fun, do not tell your curious family member which 75% it is.

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