Dear Annie: My son married his girlfriend last summer. They had been dating for nine years and lived together for most of that time. My daughter-in-law is a sweet girl who moved out of state so my son could pursue his career and has supported him in every way.

Just two years ago, they were sure they would be having a baby this year. They have been married for 10 months, and my son has decided he’s no longer in love with her.

He told me that the party and the paper seemed to change everything for them. As much as I’ve told him it’s his responsibility to hang in there during this transitional time, he seems done.

My daughter-in-law wants to talk to me about the situation. I have been avoiding her as I have absolutely no idea how to handle it when it comes to her and her extended family who I run into here and there. I feel awful. Help. — Not a Grandma

Dear Not a Grandma: You’re undeniably in a tough spot, but avoiding your daughter-in-law and her family won’t solve anything — and I’m sure it’s not making them feel any better about the situation, either.

Suggest to your son that he and his wife explore couples counseling before he throws away almost a decade of a good thing. You love and care for them both, so continue to be warm, supportive and hopeful while keeping in mind this isn’t a problem you can fix for them.

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