Dear Annie: As a caregiver and a daughter-in-law, I would just like to say your advice for “Forgotten Daughter” is spot on.

This daughter is in a very hard position, but she should try to remember that our reality can’t be forced onto her mom. Sometimes, you have to live in her reality and pretend you have never heard that story or just go along with what she says.

Enjoy every moment and story that you can, because when they are gone, you will wish you could hear them one more time. I have to remind my husband of this all the time. Don’t regret not taking the time you have to build good memories now. — Understanding Caregiver

Dear Understanding Caregiver: I love the idea of enjoying every moment, memory and story with those we love.

Cherishing those we love each day is the biggest gift we can give to them and to ourselves.

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