Dear Annie: We are parents of four and grandparents of nine.

Yes, certainly our grandchildren are much busier than ever. I felt eating nutritious meals together as a family was more important than running around all the time. We did limit activities and did not believe they had to sign up for everything.

While we truly enjoy being part of our grandchildren’s lives, we still have other obligations. Yes, we do help with child care and are very involved. We have learned to say no sometimes, and our children are OK with that.

Dear Boundaries: I’m printing your letter because I’m a huge advocate for honest communication and everyone setting their own personal boundaries.

In the end, it will make relationships more harmonious.

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