Dear Annie: I wanted to write in with a mindset shift that I have had over the past couple of years.

What helps me get over childhood trauma is the realization that I am who I am because of the things I’ve experienced — both the good things and the awful things that stem from my childhood and how I’ve lived as a result.

Our parents were humans and went through their own trauma as well. I forgive them and realize they were doing the best they could. Life is a journey, and we’re all still on it. — Moving Forward

Dear Moving Forward: It sounds like you have found grace for both your family and yourself, which is a pillar in living a peaceful, happy life.

I hope your letter inspires others to let go of the ways they may have been wronged in the past and to embrace the journey of life — no easy feat!

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