DEAR ABBY: I need advice about people who are dishonest. I have been to several baseball games and wrestling events where people paid for lower-priced seats but then sat in the more expensive seats. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me. However, I feel this is unfair.

I want to say something to the staff, but I don’t want to be “that” person who causes trouble. When my boyfriend and I buy the cheaper seats, that is where we sit. It’s the right thing to do. How do I stop letting the actions of others disturb me? — HONEST IN WISCONSIN

DEAR HONEST: I heard a line in a play years ago that stuck with me. It was written by Voltaire, and it goes, “Cultivate your own gardens.” To me, it means concentrate less on what others are doing and more on the standards by which I live my own life.

You have every right to be disgusted when you see people cheating. But allowing it to become a preoccupation is a distraction, and it only lessens your own good time. (Cross your fingers and hope the folks who bought those seats show up and embarrass the cheaters.)

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