Dear Annie: Impersonal bridal shower invitation

Dear Annie: I was very happy to receive a lovely bridal shower invitation in the mail this week.

Last year, I went to a total of four baby/wedding showers. Three of those invitations were sent via text, one by email. I took umbrage by the impersonal, thoughtless manner in which they were sent.

After all, I will be setting an afternoon aside from my schedule and spending $50-$100 on a gift.

Am I old-fashioned, or is this rude? — Annoyed by the Invites

Dear Annoyed: It is acceptable to send out a beautiful paperless post via email. A text message, less so. The invitation sets the tone of the shower.

If it is to be very casual, then a text could suffice, but if it is very over-the-top, then a paper invitation, or a very nice paperless post, is better. What is rude is not saying “thank you” for your gifts. Showing gratitude to your guests is always in style.

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