Dear Amy: My husband passed away suddenly 10 months ago.

Many people have brought up the topic of dating.

I find that it’s insensitive.

What is an appropriate response to, “When are you going to date again?”

– New Widow

Dear New Widow: I’m sure readers will want to help with this, but I think you might want to consider a version of: “That’s a very surprising question; I don’t really know how to answer it.”

Sometimes, a person can flag disdain for a question by responding, “Why are you asking?” In your case, I think this response could perhaps invite more unfortunate suggestions and queries.

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