Dear Annie: My sister has been abused, I want her to get a divorce

Dear Annie: My sister has been abused mentally and financially for many years, and it is getting worse with her husband now retired. Her self-esteem is so low, and I’m scared of losing this loving and caring person. But she wants her 18 years of marriage to work.

I want her to get a divorce. And I’ve been supporting her mentally and financially for years. — Divorce the Bum

Dear Divorce the Bum: Watching someone you love be torn down by another person is painful. Perhaps the most painful part is you cannot force her to leave. You can, however, be there for her without judgment. Tell her how much you love her, be supportive and find ways to build up her self-esteem. Talk with a counseling or support group or contact the National Domestic Abuse Hotline (800-799-7233) for more resources on how to offer support and to talk to someone about your concerns.

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