Dear Amy: I had a long-term close friendship that I have finally completely severed.

This friend is married to a prominent doctor.

She started telling me private information about his patients and coworkers that he is obviously sharing with her. She has even discussed patient matters in front of him, and he has not stopped or corrected her.

I’ve also heard him discussing things that I would not want shared.

My family changed doctors years ago when I started feeling wildly uncomfortable with how unprofessional he is.

Here is where I struggle (outside of finding this morally and legally beyond wrong).

What do I say to our mutual friends who question why I no longer spend time with them?

How to reconcile my conscience with knowing that he has no respect for HIPAA laws and continues to share sensitive information about his patients?

– Disgusted

Dear Disgusted: You seem to feel ethically bound to protect this doctor’s privacy.

Oh – the irony.

When friends ask why you are no longer socializing with this couple, you should tell them the truth: “They have both been very indiscreet about his patients.”

Additionally, you can file a complaint (anonymously, if you prefer) through the Health and Human Services website: HHS.gov/hipaa (search on filing a complaint).

(If I was his patient, I would want someone to blow the whistle.)

You can email Amy Dickinson at [email protected] or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068.