Dear Annie: My girlfriendâs adult son wonât work and is endangering our living situation

Dear Annie: My girlfriend has a 36-year-old son who refuses to work. He has every excuse in the book. No job is right for him. Without any education or training, he wants to make $20 per hour. Even then, he either quits or gets fired. He has lived off family for all of the five years I’ve known him and currently lives with us. He never found any job, even part-time, last year and never paid any rent. We were forced to move.

Now we are in a 55-plus community that does not allow anyone younger. He has been hiding in the living room and porch. If discovered, the community can evict us. How do we get him out? — Stuck With GF’s Son

Dear Stuck: The first step is making sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page. Is she OK with her son living with you? Does she think his behavior is a problem? Assuming she agrees with you, the next step would be to initiate a loving yet honest conversation between the three of you. Give him a timeline to move out, and you can even help him try to find a job. Better late than never.

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