Dear Annie: Should I judge someone by appearance?

Dear Annie: This is in response to the lady who complained about how people hold their fork and knife. Your response was very true. I have rheumatoid arthritis, and as my hands have gotten worse, holding things is a real challenge. I used to peel potatoes in a few minutes, but it now takes many times as long. I also park in a handicapped spot. Some days, I can move fairly easily; other days, it is a challenge to just get out of my car. I have other friends with osteoarthritis, multiple sclerosis and Parkinson’s disease who have similar problems.

I learned long ago not to judge by appearance. Thank you for explaining that things aren’t always what they seem. — Mary W.

Dear Mary W.: I’m sorry that you’re struggling with rheumatoid arthritis. I’m happy to print your letter to again amplify the message that others’ suffering and limitations are not always readily apparent.

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