Dear Annie: I have recently gone through a friend breakup with a friend we will call “Elizabeth.” When I first met Elizabeth, she was pregnant with her first child. After about a year, we became very close friends, and she had a second child. After the second child was born, I offered to go to Elizabeth’s house once a week to play with the children for a couple hours to give her a break.

Although I initially volunteered to help her out, I was quickly expected to help anytime Elizabeth and her husband needed child care. For about the first three years of her youngest’s life, I was there anytime they needed me. Recently, we had a disagreement, and Elizabeth told me that I need to understand that the whole world doesn’t revolve around me. I found that incredibly insulting considering I have done so much for them.

Should I try to make amends, or is it time to let go of this friendship? — Friend Turned Nanny

Dear Friend Turned Nanny: Her comment was insensitive for sure, but people often say things they don’t mean in the heat of the moment. Was this an isolated incident, or does she have a pattern of saying careless and insulting things?

If it’s the former, I would tell her how much her words hurt your feelings so you can squash the resentment and hopefully move on. But if this is par for the course, then it might be time to reevaluate whether you’re getting as much from this friendship as you’re putting in.

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